At Community Pregnancy Clinics, we explain the reality of each pregnancy option a woman faces- parenting, adoption, and abortion. While many women feel like abortion is their only option, our caring nurses and counselors help them to see that this is not the case. By providing free services and connecting women with resources, our free pregnancy clinics are making hope possible. Below is a story from the perspective of a woman who recently came to Community Pregnancy Clinics thinking abortion was her only option.
A couple months ago, I found out I was pregnant. I was so nervous to tell my boyfriend. We liked each other a lot, but I knew he didn’t want a baby. I mean we were young and not married, it definitely wasn’t in our plan. After working up the courage to tell him I was pregnant, he told me to get an abortion, and if I did we could stay together. I didn’t want to lose him, so I scheduled an appointment at Planned Parenthood. I didn’t want to have an abortion, but I felt like it was my only option. When I pulled into Planned Parenthood alone that day, I was so nervous.
I noticed a group of people standing outside. They were holding up different signs that said phrases like “We are here to help” and “we will connect you with resources,” and I think they were praying, too. They looked really nice, and I really did want help. I didn’t want what was about to happen. As I slowly walked up to the front doors of that giant grey building, a woman from the group walked up to me. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but I knew I could trust her, and I didn’t want to go inside those big doors. So, she walked me around the corner to what she said was a pregnancy center that had free services, unlike those at Planned Parenthood.
I didn’t know what was going to happen, but I felt safe. As we walked into the pregnancy center, I was greeted by a smiling young girl at the front desk, and soon enough I was in a beautiful room sitting beside a nurse. I just knew I could trust her. She was so kind and asked me a lot of questions my boyfriend definitely hadn’t asked me since finding out I was pregnant. I felt safe. So, I explained how my boyfriend kept telling me to get an abortion. How he was promising me that if I got one, we could have a future together. It felt good to get out of my head and say all this out loud to the nurse. She kept listening and nodding along. I felt heard.
Suddenly, my phone rang, and it was him. He kept saying the word abortion. I didn’t even know what to say to him anymore, and I could sense the selfishness in his voice. “Can you please talk to him?” I asked the nurse. She did, and I felt relieved. She explained to the two of us how we could make this work and how we could care for this little life growing inside of me. I knew he wouldn’t budge, but I also knew she was right. Realizing he was never going to change his mind, I hung up the phone.
“He’s gonna dump me. He’s gonna dump me whether I keep this baby or not,” I said to the nurse. Now, I have a complicated medical history, and even though I’m young, I knew this could have been my one chance of ever having a child of my own. “I’m gonna waste this chance I have of being a mom, and he’s still going to dump me,” I said. The nurse sat back and was quiet. I just stared at the floor and processed my thoughts.
After a moment, the nurse leaned forward, “Do we want to go see this baby?” she asked. “Absolutely,” I said confidently. She brought me to an ultrasound room and soon enough I was looking at my little baby’s heart beating on the screen. My little baby. I realized I didn’t need my boyfriend, I needed to protect my baby.
The ultrasound technician pointed out my little baby’s developing features and showed me the same kindness and love the nurse had, too. By the end of the appointment, they were telling me about different prenatal vitamins I had never even heard about before. I realized I was going to be a mom, and it felt really good. With the support from these ladies, I knew I was going to be okay.
If you are pregnant and are thinking abortion is your only option, make an appointment at one of our pregnancy resource centers. Our caring staff is ready to help you in Naples, Fort Myers, Sarasota, and Gainesville.